Thursday, February 28, 2008

Revisiting Valentine's Day - A New Cause - Part 4

The conversation with the woman from the Pierce County Adoption Investigation office was productive only in that she was able to recommend a couple of attorneys that were excellent in the field. She also was able to confirm that my grandson had been named as the father in the paperwork. Up until that time, we didn't really know what the birth mother had said.

This woman was really frustrated by all of the events. There was nothing in her paperwork that indicated the parents of this child had been actually living together when she was born. She also confirmed what we had already thought, the hospital had really dropped the ball on this one.

There had been an appointment set for the adoption hearing even though my grandson had yet to be served with papers. There was question that the date would be sufficient because there is a determined time allotment from when the papers are served to the actual hearing. I think that means he has x number of days to respond.

I think my daughter also got some ideas about loop holes in the law that had made this whole mess possible. I wouldn't be surprised to see my daughter doing some lobbying on this matter in the future. It's clear the law needs to be changed.

The last thing the woman from the county told my daughter was she would be contacting the attorney for the adoptive family. The message she would give him was his adoption was going south. To my daughter and grandson that sounded me, not so much. I have had experience with the legal system. Things don't always work out the way they should.

Late Friday evening, my grandson was finally served with the papers. I have no clue what the legal term for these paper might be. But they notified my grandson that the child was being put up for adoption and he must appear or forfeit his parental rights. That is the gist of them anyway.

Monday my grandson was finally able to make connections with an attorney who specializes in this type of case. An appointment was set for later the following day.

In the meantime, the birth mother was calling my grandson on the phone constantly day and night, hounding him to not interfere with the adoption. She said if he did anything to stop it, she would take the baby back even though she didn't want it. She would make sure that he would never see her or his other daughter again. My grandson put up with this harassment, worried that if he didn't his daughter would pay. We were all thankful the appointment with the lawyer was coming soon.

Time seemed to crawl for all of us waiting for this appointment. I think everyone hoped there would be some easy answer. But there were none. The papers that my grandson was served were incomplete. The lawyer didn't even have all the information he needed to figure out what to do. AND he was going to be gone for the last two days of the week. In the meantime, my grandson was given some things to think about. There was a tentative appointment set up for the first part of next week. We are in limbo again.

To be continued...............

An Update


Frazzled Farm Wife said...

This sounds like one immature birth mom....I don't want the baby but if you try to get it I will take it back. What kind of life would this child have with her??!!

Enola said...

Ask the attny if your son can record the conversations between he and the mother. Also tell him to save all phone recordings (voice mails or on answering machines).

Cheesemeister said...

She (the birth mom) sounds very unstable. I think Enola's idea is a very good one. She should probably not have custody of any children.

April_optimist said...

What a mess! And yes, he needs to keep records of her comments and threats. I will be keeping all of you in my prayers.

Raine said...

I will be praying for you all in this

Marj aka Thriver said...

All I can say after reading these four posts is...Wow! Real life is truly a drama sometimes. Whew! Please keep us posted. Looking forward to reading part 5 as I send up positive vibes for your grandson.