How do you define betrayal? Is is just another subjective thing that is different to all people? Or is it something more finite, measurable in one's behavior? Is it different for all of us? Or is it a constant? Do you know it when it happens to you? Or are you stuck wondering what it is that's happening? Is it different for family members? Or the same no matter whose the transgressions?
I find myself wondering all these things and more. If my daughter continues to do business and socialize with someone who has harmed me in any way, is that ok? Or is that a betrayal? Or does it really matter what the harm was? I'd like to know.
It seems to me that as long as she continues to do business and socialize with them knowing what they have done and what they continue to do, that she is taking sides. She claims she is not. How can she not be? Why would she not be might be the better question? Isn't it a question of loyalty? If she keeps that connection to them, isn't she being disloyal to me?
Does family mean nothing? Or maybe it is our family that means nothing to her? Maybe I mean nothing to her? That's how it feels anyway. I can't even define it. All I know is it feels wrong to me. Now what am I going to do about it? I guess that is the biggest question of all.