Sunday, September 14, 2008

What's REALLY the Matter..............

There's nothing that makes me angrier than someone deciding that I'm REALLY not angry about what I say I'm angry about. This condescending tripe that someone cares about what's at the bottom of my feelings when it's really just an excuse to avoid any kind of responsibility for their own behavior is nothing more than b*ll sh*t. I've had it right up to the proverbial here with such crap!

Not that it matters whether this particular assault came from my dear daughter or my husband (who can be just as guilty) I'm really fed up. Maybe it's because I'm tired and stressed but my tolerance for such behavior is nil so I'm venting here!

Why can't those people just accept my feelings are my feelings? Just because something might not be a big deal to them doesn't mean it isn't important to me. I'm so sick of people thinking I should conform to their standards instead of accepting me the way I am.

In case you're wondering what got me off on this tangent, while I was telling my daughter about a problem I was having with hay for my horses that are in my daughter and granddaughter care, my daughter asked me "what's really the matter..............." like my problem no reason to be upset.

Afterall, it's NO BIG DEAL to her, she's not the one expected to fix this problem, I am and I'm not the one that caused it. And that's what p*sses me off the most.........just dump it in my lap to fix............no wonder it's not a problem for them. Can you tell I'm really seething over this??

9 comments:

Lily Strange said...

I get the same thing from my family. It makes me angry too.

Frazzled Farm Wife said...

I am so with you on this one! Just because it doesn't bother them doesn't mean it doesn't bother me....and if it does bother me, do not tell me to get over it it's not a big deal....obviously it is a BIG deal to me!

Enola said...

I've gotten that from friends/family before too. You're right - it's infuriating.

Tamara said...

I've had the same thing happen and it makes me just as angry! I am pretty sure that I know when I am upset and what I am upset about!

Lynn said...

No, it's never a big deal to the person who doesn't have to fix the problem. I hate it when I get stuck holding the bag on something and then no one understands why I'm ticked off about it.

I, too, have things that others think are no big deal. Sadly, what I've usually done, is pretend that it really ISN'T a big deal; that I was NOT disturbed by whatever it was. Usually this just made me go off later and explode about it, and then they would really think I was nutty. It's good that you came on to vent.

jumpinginpuddles said...

oh great just what you didnt need.

Kahless said...

Effing hell.
I have been angry lately too about something.
It is healthy to vent I think.

keepers said...

oooh, we know how you feel when someone does that! that will set us off like i don't know what! sorry you are going through that but you really are not alone on this one at all!

peace and blessings

keepers

Donna said...

No one should ever pretend that they understand someone else, that's not only pretentious, it can be dangerous. This is where you can vent all you want.