I'm pretty sure that I have been hearing this idiom since I was little. Wanting to live by the golden rule, Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. has made honesty high on my list because I want people to be honest with me. I hate being lied to or cheated.
With my history I think honesty is something I have tried to live by because I was trying to prove that I am worthy to be taking up space in this world. I was always being referred to as a liar when I hadn't lied. I seemed to think somehow I could prove that I could be trusted if I was really truly honest. It didn't work but not because I didn't try.
Even after my therapy honesty has been important to me. It has helped me to identify people I could trust and those to steer clear of. I learned early on that those who could switch honesty on and off at their convenience were very likely to be people who would not think twice about me being a casualty of their making. It has definitely proved to be a good measure of someones trustworthiness.
I've been told that I live by a very high standard. That has never bothered me much although I suspect it makes me threatening to some people. That's where the trouble comes in I think. It's been my experience that people who take shortcuts around the rules and know that I don't are threatened by my presence. I find myself in awkward situations sometimes when I haven't done anything wrong.
People who chose to live by a lessor standard might manipulate their feelings to justify their behavior but underneath it all, they know they are "cheating." With that comes worry about being caught. Then instead of being responsible for their decisions, they find it easier to lay blame elsewhere. I seem to fit that bill.
Instead of being respected for my decisions sometimes I find that things can be tougher for me because of them. People in a position to help me or do business with me don't because they're more comfortable with those who manipulate and cheat and keeping their distance from me. The end result is it has affected my business.
It doesn't really make much sense. You would think that honesty would pay off but it doesn't always work that way. I know it sure hasn't for me. I won't change my standards just because others chose to be more comfortable with manipulators and cheaters. But it is frustrating that being honest isn't just hard to do but can actually make one less acceptable in some circles.
I guess that doesn't say much for the industry I do business in but I don't really think that it's different in other industries either. What do you think? What gets you the farthest? Being honest and straight forward or beating around the bush...