I've been working on another series of questions from Kahless. The last in the series was Even More Questions on Feelings and Such I haven't posted in this series in a few days because I have been exhausted. I am just now getting back to working my horses after being off sick for two months.
After working six horses, frankly my body is shot and my mind mush at the end of the day. The horse blog is easy to write but this one takes some mental effort on my part. So I found myself zoned out in my rocking chair instead of working on this blog. Will I strive to do daily posts, once in a while, life gets me. I hope you all understand.
So back to that list of questions.
Q: Sibling relationships through abuse into adulthood. Can two siblings, one in denial and one in truth ever rub along in a health way.
A: This is a tough question. While I can understand not wanting to let go of siblings, I'm not sure a relationship with an unhealthy sibling can come without a price. The Osmonds sang that song with the lyric, "one bad apple can spoil the whole bunch." I think that applies here.
How can you have a healthy relationship with someone who is unhealthy. If they are stuck in the distorted family rules of the past, it's not likely they can shed them to interact with a healthy sibling. Odds are the interaction will be colored by manipulative behavior because that's what those old family rules are all about.
Anyone who seeks to get free of that old family stuff and get healthy is rocking the boat. The whole dysfunctional family structure strives to knock that rebellious party back into line so the family can function in their usual manner and the boat can sail smoothly again.
Q:Reconciliation of psychology and caring therapy (I am not sure they go together.)
A: This is an odd question that I am unsure how to answer. Psychology is the study of human behavior. Counseling is the process of teaching or guiding a client towards good mental health. They are not the same thing at all.
Just because someone has a degree in psychology does not mean that they have good mental health. What it means is they have studied human behavior and have been able to pass certain tests explaining it.
How they chose to interpret the facts they have learned would distinguish whether or not they would be a good therapist or a dangerous one. I've certainly seen some very manipulative psychologists out there. They are usually engaged in supporting the behavior of other manipulative people. That's not what I would call good mental health.
That doesn't make the study of psychology defective but it may mean the testing is. I don't know what to say, just that I don't believe because someone has a degree in psychology that they would be a good therapist. Also, as far as I'm concerned, it doesn't mean they are a good person.
Counselors and psychologists, just like other segments of the population, will have good ones and bad ones and those in the middle. Finding the right one would be challenge and really probably should involve an interview process.
I think I only have a couple of more questions left from Kahless and I will address them in the next post. If anyone else has something they'd like to see posted, just let me know.
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