I must have done something right. I was talking on the phone with my youngest son today. He is in a relationship with a young woman who has a small child.
Up until recently Son hasn't been dating for quite a while because he's made some not so good choices in women in the past. He's tended to leap before he looks and in the past chose two different women who turned out to be stalkers. Watching him stumble around making these mistakes wasn't pretty and his life was a mess.
He took some time off dating to get his finances in order and figure out his priorities. He's learned a lot about himself and has taken responsibility for his life being a mess. His focus has changed and he's thinking he's ready for a relationship.
Enter the woman with small child. While Son loves kids he's never had to deal with one in a relationship before. He's not afraid of the challenge but it is indeed a challenge he's trying to figure out so.....what did my son do..............he talked to this woman about the problem he was having.
He told me today how he appreciated me teaching him the importance of communication. Instead of bottling it all up, he had a real talk with the woman and they worked things out. Can you imagine that! I have a child who actually learned something helpful about relationships from me. I thought I would never see that!
My other children and even my husband look at me like I'm speaking Greek whenever I try to resolve anything around here. They're all firm believers in stuffing things hoping they'll go away.
I spent years in therapy hoping my children would have a better life because of the changes I made. Yet most everyone chose not to follow in my footsteps. Now here's number two son actually putting into practice what he learned from me. I am beside myself with pride!