Jumpinginpuddles recently did a post, Methodical rule making While others might not see the underlying message about the importance of "rules" to an SRA survivor, I totally get it. The very first thing that struck me about the post was that need to have the "rules" stay the same, not to mention the need to have rules at all.
Unfortunately those rules we've been taught to live by are really not productive. They keep us caught in the very web we are trying to flee. But the very mention of changing the rules without consultation or preparation can send us into a tail spin. Whenever we are jostled by the world around us, someone inside is determining if that jostle is by the rules or if new rules of our own making are in order.
We think that we are doing the best thing we can, protecting our system from attack or upsetting our delicate balance. The problem is the frame of reference we are using to determine which way our new rules should go has been predetermined by our abuse.
Old programming and all it entails affects the decisions we make. The purpose, again, is to keep their secrets safe. It was never about protecting us. Those rules were established as a kind of prison. While they made us feel like we had some kind of power and rules were determined of our own volition, nothing could be father from the truth.Every abuse that went in to creating those rules was meticulously planned for cause and effect.
It is no coincidence that JIP's need for rules and mine (former need) are the same. It is part of the master plan of mind control. These people then and now are experts in exercising this plan and laying all the groundwork too guarantee that we would be so bound by rules.
Just as they have led us to believe that we know best about the need for keeping rules so our resistance to changing them is built in and almost inpenetrable. That assures we will stay caught in their trap. They have a built in system for causing chaos and establishing the new rules as well. The only way we can guarantee that we are safe from any more of their control is to turn over those rules. Examine them with a neutral outside person whom we trust to help us find new suitable rules.