tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2187441051484747220.post6670003180054923962..comments2023-05-29T07:02:47.281-07:00Comments on My Clouds, My Storms and Multiple Personality Disorder: The Old Story.............with a New TwistRising Rainbowhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04239592070775412669noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2187441051484747220.post-85283231782462345982008-07-13T15:54:00.000-07:002008-07-13T15:54:00.000-07:00I'm sorry you are dealing with this, and right aft...I'm sorry you are dealing with this, and right after Lindsay's come home from the hospital. <BR/><BR/>It sounds like your granddaughter needs a swift kick in the pants. Selfish, immature people don't always grow out of it so I won't say that maybe she'll grow out of it. I hope you are able to come to a satisfactory resolution, whatever that may be.<BR/><BR/>((RR))Angelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15988412468706069777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2187441051484747220.post-27204061424563115772008-07-12T23:28:00.000-07:002008-07-12T23:28:00.000-07:00hugshugsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2187441051484747220.post-85169265442963584902008-07-12T17:43:00.000-07:002008-07-12T17:43:00.000-07:00I remember incidents like this with my parents gro...I remember incidents like this with my parents growing up. We would just lock horns. There was a lot of rage in my family. Sometimes when we're under stress about something the negative behavior gets the better of us. Don't be too hard on yourself. Sometimes teenage girls can be horrid. I know...I was one of the worst!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05779107279394475454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2187441051484747220.post-36055356560062937262008-07-12T17:32:00.000-07:002008-07-12T17:32:00.000-07:00{{{{{{{{RR}}}}}}}}{{{{{{{{RR}}}}}}}}Spilling Inkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13970126156464922867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2187441051484747220.post-65304686734668942822008-07-12T17:06:00.000-07:002008-07-12T17:06:00.000-07:00I am back and had time to think this situation thr...I am back and had time to think this situation thru. <BR/><BR/>I totally agree with Kahless; taking a break from this mess is a good idea. And I agree your granddaughter will indeed quickly wear her welcome out with these people you know. How you respond to them the next time you see them will be far more impacting than anything she or your daughter might have to say. When it is all said and done, there is something about a dignified righteous person’s behavior that speaks volumes. <BR/><BR/>I mentioned having read your blog from time to time during the last year or so. I certainly don’t know all of your details. But what I have pieced together is you have managed to find your way of out a lousy childhood and challenging early adult hood. The Arabian horses gave your heart hope, love, and courage to over come some really dicey circumstances. I see these things, feel these things as I too came from a bad childhood. My father was a very damaged man who married a very sheltered woman. So I am responding to you today as one who has also fought my way to wholeness by reinventing myself time and time again. A bit like a snake that keeps on growing and shedding my old skin. <BR/><BR/>As I see it, the process of learning, changing, then becoming is never ending when you start from a handicapped perspective. A great visual is a person born with a debilitating body issue. Be it arms, legs, back or other catastrophic health issues. As a child one might know they are unable to keep up with peers. But it is only as person gets older the full impact of a limitation begins to dawn on one and then in only the most obvious of ways. You realize you can’t run after a ball or bike or skate. But you may not realize your interactions with people around you is hampered by those needs and centered around your limitations. Another thing you may not realize is all these peoples interaction with you is also colored by your limitation. <BR/><BR/>When you become an adult there may come a moment in time when you can address your limitation, ie. get your self repaired so to speak. So you take the necessary steps to accomplish this dream of becoming whole. It might take 4 or 5 different procedures over a period of time before you can do the things you always dream of doing. Then one day there you are whole able to keep up. It is a golden moment to be able to run, skate or skip down a lane. Your body is finally free, but your mind is not. You still revert back to thinking in the same old ways and patterns you did when you were limited. As do all of the people around you who have known you as limited. So you must began all over again a new process of unlearning old habits, rituals and thought patterns. And all of the people who knew you as handicapped must learn new ways of thinking about you and interacting with you. There are those who may balk at having to change their opinions or responses. Some may choose not to for it serves their needs to keep you limited and needy. Perhaps they might in-list outsiders to reinforce their positions of dominance. <BR/><BR/>This is what I see when you talk about your grand daughter, daughter and other more extended family members. They are comfortable, they are happy they are dominate, they are in control and do not want you to change. And you, you must continue to change, to move forward to continue becoming whole, and healthy; a destiny that beckons you despite each obstacle.jalec48https://www.blogger.com/profile/06789130546169823515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2187441051484747220.post-49888543791563262842008-07-12T16:37:00.000-07:002008-07-12T16:37:00.000-07:00Hi RR....I am so sorry your granddaughter behaved ...Hi RR....I am so sorry your granddaughter behaved so poorly...and so very mean.<BR/><BR/>As far as the neighbour..what is thier problem. It would behoove someone to find out the whole story...if of course it was any of their business in the first place.<BR/><BR/>Personally, I think it wonderful that you are trying to share your love of your horses with your granddaughter. Sounds like its time for a bounday lesson for granddaughter, mom...and neighbours.<BR/><BR/>Thinking of you<BR/><BR/>LaurieCaseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07294078594118488251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2187441051484747220.post-34420429348173312472008-07-12T12:33:00.000-07:002008-07-12T12:33:00.000-07:00Mikael,I just commented on your previous blog and ...Mikael,<BR/><BR/>I just commented on your previous blog and again, I am so sorry that you are having to deal with this. This one probably hurts 100 fold because it is your granddaughter (and to some extent your friends and your daughter) instead of an ebay "friend" that invited herself into your home. Teenagers can be so spiteful. I have a stepdaughter and her teenage years were hell on earth for me and I broke my back to make her happy. She will probably get through this and you will get back on track with her but I know the pain is unbearable right now. <BR/><BR/>You are in my thoughts,<BR/>TamaraTamara (TC) Stapleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00633350990983632539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2187441051484747220.post-40821546970025043602008-07-12T11:25:00.000-07:002008-07-12T11:25:00.000-07:00I am still mulling this over too.My first reaction...I am still mulling this over too.<BR/><BR/>My first reaction was a teenager with hormones and a selfish and immature attitude.<BR/><BR/>You did play right into her hands when you slapped her. That gave her opportunity and something to use against you. And fuelled her rage.<BR/><BR/>For me the worse thing that has happened was the use of others in the argument and getting them on side. That is the most hurtful? Including your daughter's involvement. That for me would be more hurtful.<BR/><BR/>I hate it when others are dragged into a problem and they allow themselves to get involved.<BR/><BR/>And you know what; a leopard doesnt change its spots. Your granddaughter will fall out with your 'friends' over time as she will take for granted the use of their horse. And use and abuse their input.<BR/><BR/>Take a break from this mess and soothe yourself as best you can. I am sorry you are going through this.Kahlesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00500615451909999365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2187441051484747220.post-64786613901864031462008-07-12T08:21:00.000-07:002008-07-12T08:21:00.000-07:00Mikael,I was out last night and am going to be gon...Mikael,<BR/><BR/>I was out last night and am going to be gone today. That said I also need some time to sort thru this situation you posted. <BR/><BR/>This could have happen to me. It could have happen to just about anyone given the right set of circumstances. I do think it has something to do with boundaries and snot nosed teenagers pushing those boundaries. Also your daughter. I also think it has to do with limitations we have placed on how we interact with the world. Again I am so sorry and will comment later today after I have mulled it over.jalec48https://www.blogger.com/profile/06789130546169823515noreply@blogger.com