tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2187441051484747220.post63259839966756971..comments2023-05-29T07:02:47.281-07:00Comments on My Clouds, My Storms and Multiple Personality Disorder: Questions from JumpinginpuddlesRising Rainbowhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04239592070775412669noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2187441051484747220.post-8470069865062561142007-11-29T09:05:00.000-08:002007-11-29T09:05:00.000-08:00Another great post RR."Confrontation can be downri...Another great post RR.<BR/><BR/>"Confrontation can be downright frightening BUT it is a necessary part of a healthy life. We have to learn to stand up for ourselves and speak our minds"<BR/><BR/>is just what I was speaking with my therapist about only 2 hours ago!<BR/><BR/>It is SO scarey but I agree, ultimately has to be done. And has to be learned step by step when it is something that you have never done; standing up for ourselves that is.Kahlesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00500615451909999365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2187441051484747220.post-75439314653180202782007-11-29T07:26:00.000-08:002007-11-29T07:26:00.000-08:00Therapy is definitely hard...quite possibly the ha...Therapy is definitely hard...quite possibly the hardest thing I have ever and will ever do. School is hard, especially the field I am working on...but it's a different kind of hard I think. And in all honesty, it would be far easier if I was further along in therapy, or if I didn't need to be in therapy at all! Of course if I had never started therapy I would probably still be working in an area of my field that I can't stand (dealing with other people's money), making too little money, with too much stress and no room to ever advance. Or I would be d*ad...since that IS the reason I started therapy in the first place...acute su*c*dality (not ideation...had a plan).<BR/><BR/>I sometimes wonder if I'm being deceitful with T when I tell her I am "ok" or "alright". I know I am usually not when I say that, she knows I'm not, I know she knows I'm not, she knows I know she knows...etc. :P For me it's a reflex to say that...something I'm working on changing, but it's hard because most of the people that ask are people that I don't really know and they really don't want to hear or need to hear the reality. So it's hard to change it only in certain instances. <BR/><BR/>I do think I got very lucky with T. I'll try to sum up a long story...went to GP, Gp said therapy. Went home and GP had called with list of providers on my insurance (she knew I wouldn't call insurance on my own). I crossed off all the men and started calling the women. Called 12 people that day, early afternoon. Same evening I got a call back that said nothing available, another call back from secretary saying can see you at the end of march (it was the first week of jan!) and T called... herself. Talked breifly, she asked if I had any questions, I said I don't even have any idea what to ask...she asked if I was su*cidal, I lied...I think she could tell. She then said she could see me the very next morning...which then became my weekly session time for 3 1/2 years...then it changed to another day. Have been with her ever since. I have changed a lot over those years, a few people have commented, like my partner...she is very supportive of therapy for me. Never asks anything other than "hard session?" if I seem distant or something afterwards. But she has commented that she has seen good changes...particularly that I don't wall myself off if someone speaks to me. I used to do that...which of course made me appear to be a complete snob when in fact I was terrified of talking to people! Because of this, her (large) family didn't like me except for her mom...they now understand a little bit and attribute it to being shy (and DO like me now), although her youngest sister who lives nearby does know a bit more now. <BR/><BR/>And that is a very long-winded and somewhat disjointed reply to your post! I'll sum it up by saying I think therapy is important, beneficial for many, and has and continues to change my life. I was ready for the changes though...and that is also important. And now I have to get ready to go to therapy!<BR/><BR/>SeraMedicoglia, RNhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01894674563874832457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2187441051484747220.post-47162065468955248772007-11-29T02:30:00.000-08:002007-11-29T02:30:00.000-08:00I had a horrifically unhealthy therapy relationshi...I had a horrifically unhealthy therapy relationship after I was raped 10 years ago. When I first went to the woman I was barely functioning. She constantly told me that all I needed in my life was a therapist that I could trust. She seemed more concerned with getting me to bed before 3 AM, getting me to quit drinking hot chocolate before going to bed, and convincing me that men were not to be trusted than with actually hearing what was happening with me. After she said "You're doing so much better, Lily, you were an absolute basket case when you first came in here" I said EXCUSE ME??? I may not have the credentials, but I sure have the sense to know that you do not EVER call a client a "basket case" to their face.<BR/>I can't say I've ever been able to trust a therapist enough to completely come clean with them. I've come close a couple of times. There's one fellow I might still be going to but he's way out of my price range and my insurance doesn't cover him. :-(<BR/>Just in case you wonder, this is Cheesemeister's alter ego--the one that writes the books.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05779107279394475454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2187441051484747220.post-28219125601207089762007-11-28T23:54:00.000-08:002007-11-28T23:54:00.000-08:00so im trying to find the right words without being...so im trying to find the right words without being rude or anything so i really really hope i do not hurt you or anyone by saying this.<BR/><BR/>Is it the minorities who have the issues? <BR/>In other words say i or someone else didnt or couldnt relate to their therapist because of say hurt that had been inflicted in previous situations, is it soemthing an alter has to work through with that therapist if it involves them or can they see someone else and deal with it?<BR/>Not all alters are good at confrontations i certainly couldnt ever tell the systems T how hurt i am and wounded so i think what im asking is..... are you supposed to have to confront if it is your T that has hurt you?<BR/>And what happens if you just dont ever deal with it and let everyone else get their healing?<BR/><BR/>Ameliajumpinginpuddleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02701383598841540578noreply@blogger.com