tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2187441051484747220.post142300933842141956..comments2023-05-29T07:02:47.281-07:00Comments on My Clouds, My Storms and Multiple Personality Disorder: Learned HelplessnessRising Rainbowhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04239592070775412669noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2187441051484747220.post-57072581893444634582009-07-13T13:36:18.447-07:002009-07-13T13:36:18.447-07:00The lady I spoke above. She went on a bungy jump ...The lady I spoke above. She went on a bungy jump on wednesday and broke her leg bone lengthways. Been in hospital to have an op to get it pinned. She is really having life shove it at her at the moment but is resilient and chirppy. I cant help but think in her situation I would have buckled.Kahlesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00500615451909999365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2187441051484747220.post-859682587800375682009-07-13T12:09:03.551-07:002009-07-13T12:09:03.551-07:00Helplessness can come in so many forms. Some are e...Helplessness can come in so many forms. Some are easy to understand and see and other's are a bit blurry. <br /><br />And age plays a factor too. With age and experience comes confidence, when someone's young most times they don't have alot of self-confidence and doubt themselves alot, so they seem really helpless.<br /><br />If she's really helpless and can't do for herself (for physical or mental reasons), well I'd try to teach her how to do what she is capable of doing, expecting no more than that, but encouraging more.<br /><br />If she's playing the manipulate game, then I'd stop letting her manipulate. Easier said than done. But at least she wouldn't manipulate me.<br /><br />If she's just lacking confidence in herself, I'd try to build up her confidence and encourage her to do more on her own to build that confidence. The result would that she'd stop being so helpless in many situations.<br /><br />Without knowing the exact way she is, I can't say which thing I'd do in that situation. You've got my mind wandering...Lady Of Chaoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15528836839856266688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2187441051484747220.post-46580753789977733962009-07-09T11:36:47.730-07:002009-07-09T11:36:47.730-07:00There is someone I know who was abused by her husb...There is someone I know who was abused by her husband. Then her husband tried to kill her this year. She was lucky to live. He was remanded in prison. Then he killed himself a week later. <br />There were some other things that went on for her around this time too that were horrid.<br />I have been so amazed with her strength and ability to be pragmatic and pick herself up. I have been well impressed by her courage.<br /><br />I guess that doesnt help with your question. In terms of your question, figure out her payoff in the game. Figure out how she gets other trapped into playing the gme with her. Then bring it to her attention if you care about her. Or maybe if you dont care, just stop playing the game.<br /><br />I hope you are well. xx.Kahlesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00500615451909999365noreply@blogger.com